I’ve got some relief for you today if you are prone to getting frustrated or feeling disappointed…
…feeling like you’re not doing enough, being supportive enough, or telling yourself a “story” that your child should be able to behave better.
First of all, you are most definitely not alone.
In fact, I just went through this with one of my daughters this week, and now I know how to respond effectively!
You see, I have really high expectations (Maybe you do too?)
If so, in today’s video, I share with you the same tool I use daily with my clients and for myself: you can respond differently, which is essential for creating a quick shift for your child.
Click here to watch the video:
It’s that time of year again when kids are back in school and your family settles into a new routine. It’s time for a new teacher, different classmates, changes to routines and these things create anxiety for many kids.
Keep in mind if your child is feeling uncertain, worried or scared about some aspect of their life right now, it’s not uncommon for their behavior to change. Some kids may show aggression or attention seeking behavior, while others have a change in appetite or interactions with friends.
In any case, the good news is you have the opportunity to recognize their discomfort and ease them through it, with a lot less effort than you may have been trying in the past.
Often times, moms try to solve the problem. But that is usually met with resistance.
Your role is to help your child recognize what they are feeling first. Then simply allow for some compassionate space.
I use this tool The 22 Emotions Give You A Clue constantly.
I suggest you print several copies and keep one in your kitchen, your bedroom, anywhere you will see it often for quick reference.
Become familiar with the flow of emotions. When you understand that the feeling of anger may actually be an improvement, a step in the right direction, over a feeling of powerlessness, it gives you a broader perspective.
Ultimately, by identifying where your child is on the emotional ladder and allowing it to be what it is, that often starts to immediately provide some relief for them.
After they feel understood and accepted in that space, then it is a helpful time to ask if they want to brainstorm some ideas for to help them feel better.
Instead of beating yourself up, be easy about it….use the emotional ladder as a tool and recognize the most important thing you can do as a parent is help your child identify what’s going on for them.
Then they feel empowered and involved in the process of shifting the way they feel.
For today, though, I want to invite you to use this tool in your life and watch how easily challenges dissipate.
So much love,
P.S. – In the meantime, if you want to learn more proven tools and strategies to consistently improve your child’s anxiety right away, let’s talk. Click here to schedule a 15 minute conversation with me so I can find out more about you and your family and show you what’s possible!